All in Nigerian InterEthnic Love
I'm finally sharing this interview! And I'm so excited because I know it's almost impossible that you won't enjoy it as much as I did. You'll probably wish it didn't end.
I love it so much for 2 reasons. First, Kunle reached out to me saying they had a wonderful inter-ethnic relationship and he would love to share! Secondly they both took the time to respond to each question rather than provide a joint response. And one more, if I may - it feels like such an honest interview. Yet fun!
I really wouldn't want to spoil it for you, so I'll leave you to get to it. (But you should totally read to see how Kunle played a prank on his mum to get her to like Flora!)
You see, I had to go on dates with men from my village who asked me out. As much as it pained him, it was necessary to keep my parents happy. That was the only way I could argue that I was not closed up to other men. Let’s not go into what went down over the course of 2 years.
I've known Tina since our secondary school (high school) days in Queens College, Lagos. But she was one of those people you could really not immediately know what part of Nigeria they came from.
For a long time, I was intrigued. I mean her name was "Ernestina Da-Silva Domingos". I later learnt she was Yoruba. Well, she's now crossed over to the eastern part of Nigeria via marriage. She's now Ernestina Anyanwu, and as she says "I was once from Lagos state, but now from Imo state". I'm so glad she agreed to share the her inter-ethnic marriage story with us! Hope you enjoy.
One of the reasons I felt inclined to start this blog, was to share experiences on Inter-Ethnic relationships and Marriages in Nigeria.
I shared my experience on the Yoruba culture of kneeling to greet elders here, and going forward, every other personal experience will be in the EastmeetWest posts.
For now, as an Inter-Ethnic couple here are some of the questions we get asked the most, and we've answered.
I run the risk of sounding like a broken record, but I am an #IgboBrideYorubaWife. It may be helpful to read this post here for a bit of background. For those who do not know, Yoruba culture expects girls to kneel down to greet their elders. Boys are expected to prostrate with arms outstretched in front of them. Some elders are flexible, and along with a bit of modernisation girls are often permitted to do a sort of mini squat or genuflection with just one knee hitting or almost hitting the ground
I'm sure you know I am in an inter-ethnic marriage...You didn't? Now you do! That simply means that Tee and I do not come from the same ethnic group. I am Igbo, from the East of Nigeria, he is Yoruba, from the West. Technically, that is similar to someone from Cambridge in England gets married to someone from Bristol. Or someone in the US, from New York gets married to someone from California. No big deal right? Yes. True. Except in Nigeria it is kind of a big deal... for several reasons.