Analysing My First Real Photoshoot as a Typical Fashion Blogger

I was going to start this by saying that I don’t like photos. But that’s not true anymore as I don’t mind them -  although I still don’t have an eye for good photos or the camera.

In one of my conversations with Torera - a fellow lifestyle blogger I mentioned that I really needed some new photos. She immediately suggested that I tag along on her shoot day. That sounded exciting, so I agreed. But more than twice I had to back down. The shoots were slated for Saturday morning and I either had conflicting schedules or the location was a bit too far to arrive early by 10am.

Soon after, luck smiled at me as she picked a location that was pretty close to me. Although we aren’t fashion bloggers and it wasn’t a fashion type shoot, it looked to me very similar to what fashion bloggers do. It was an interesting one and here’s an analysis of the day - including my inexperience and naiviety

What I've Learned From Taking Swimming Lessons As an Adult

To the average onlooker, I’m one of those people who appears to be athletic. I’m not. I have real coordination issues that make my attempts at sports laughable. So, when I try to kick a ball, there’s a seventy percent chance that my foot will miss the ball; when I shoot hoops, there’s a two in ten chance that I will actually score—if I don’t hit the rim and send the ball bouncing back after me. I’m also terrible at handball and volleyball because the mere sight of a ball hurtling towards me sends me running in the opposite direction—I do not trust my body with sports.

The two things I can do are running—long distance—and working out (that counts right?). As a child, I tried hard to add swimming to my pitiful repertoire, mostly because everyone always said, “you look so athletic, you should be a swimmer.” I stopped trying because I was terrified of being under water and hated the feel of water in my nose or ears. I was a proud, self-proclaimed frolicker—content to hang out in the shallow end of the pool or on the sand.

But then I moved. To an island.

Mumfessions: On Marrying Young and Raising Five Kids at 28

Ify and I had a few mutual friends online. She had a first class undergraduate law degree and lived in the same town as I did, so when on one of her posts she seemed to be considering legal practice in the UK, I reached out to help. And the rest, as they say, is history. She’s one of the most hands-on people I know. From cooking to baking, sewing to knitting, hair-braiding, and soap-making, Ify seems able to do it all. As long as there are no heights involved—she’s afraid of heights.

At the moment, however, she’s mostly a stay-at-home mom. Ify says, “I do freelance consulting work and oversee certain aspects of the cases handled by my husband’s firm.”

At twenty-eight and after eight years of marriage, she’s had five kids. In this Mumfession feature, she shares her experience as a young mum of five! Ify discusses a lot—from the joys of having a large family, the impact of motherhood on her career and marriage, a terrifying moment as a mother, and of course some helpful advice for other mums!

From Dating to Parenting: How my Love Language Has Changed After 12 Years

My husband and I have now been together going on 12 years—married for almost 5—and have a 16-month-old. In this time, I’ve noticed my love language change.

Knowing your love language and communicating it to your partner is essential in a relationship—otherwise, your partner might be expending so much on gestures that mean nothing to you. In his book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman claims that of the five, most people will only really have two dominant ones. According to him, the five love languages are:

- Gifts: Gifts and thoughtful gestures are important. Even small gifts go a long way to please such people.

- Quality Time: Focused and uninterrupted one-on-one time time is key. Special moments.

- Words of Affirmation:  They want to hear you affirm your love in spoken words, a note, text, or card.

- Acts of Service: They want you to help and alleviate their workload.

- Physical Touch: Be near, in person; hold hands. They value physical touch and intimacy.

Okay, on to my love language through the seasons!

10 Bookstagram Mums to Follow for Some Serious Inspiration

Are you on #Bookstagram? If you’re unsure what the term means, then you’re probably yet to step into the world of books on Instagram. Bookstagram is Instagram’s book community teeming with #shelfies, #bookaddicts, and fans of #amreading (that is, reading in the AM). Also on Bookstagram, however, are another group of favourites - mums!

In this post, I’m shining a spotlight on some of my favourite mamas on Instagram. These women somehow manage to runs homes, care for their kids, read A LOT, and then do us the favour of sharing their reading lives (and sometimes those of their kids too!).

Here are ten of my favourite Bookstagram mums.

A Day in the Work Life of: Tiese Etim-Inyang

I’m really excited about Tiese sharing a day in her life with us! Before we go on and just in case you’re wondering how to pronounce her name (as she says many people do!), it’s pronounced  /tee-eh-seh/ and is short for Etieseabasi, which means sit down and look up to God.  On social media Tiese is a travel blogger and lover! You will also often catch her dancing to her favorite Latin-American songs on her Instagram stories.

But behind this 25 year old  travel loving, expressive dancer and spicy food (Nigerian and Thai cuisine) enthusiast, with an irrational fear of birds, is a career lady whose day job involves an important world objective - eliminating malaria in Asia / Southern Africa.  At first, I thought to myself that I wouldn’t possibly have imagined her in that role - but it’s interesting to see how she’s ended up there and what she thinks of it all.

From her morning routine, misconceptions about her jobs to career advice and curiosities - she shares it all in this feature!

Weekend Notes X Links From Around the Web

It’s funny how in the last notes I was talking about the Instagram stories I was enjoying curating and then last week I was barely even on there. My day job has been pretty busy, and I have almost zero energy for social media. Even though I really enjoy stories and sharing, I’m beginning to question the sheer amount of time it takes.

I’ve also been thinking about this space in general. Someone mentioned that reading blogs were coming back into fashion. And while I was really excited about that as I do love blogs, for a split second I questioned if mine was the kind of blogs they were referring to. You see, most blogs are personal; people pretty much share a lot of their lives. With a lot of photos. While I do like to do that, it doesn’t come naturally to me — especially sharing photos. Still, many people have also said I need to share more to connect with my audience.

Anyway, this blog turns three this weekend! Is that why I’m having all of these thoughts? Some blog midlife crisis perhaps?

Content Creator? Blogger? We Answered 5 FAQs on How to Work with Brands

In today’s world, content is king — and not just from an influencer or blogger point of view. The world literally revolves around content, whether it’s news agencies, brands, companies, or even the recent surge of masterclasses. If you can create and deliver content, you’re prime material.

And it is this need that makes excellent content creators highly sought after by brands and companies. These include PR, copy writers and graphics designers. But it’s one thing to create the content, and another to influence people to use or connect with your content.  So when you’re a content creator with the ability to influence your following,  you’re extra prime material.

Many bloggers by the sheer nature of what they do fit into this box. If you’re keen to receive a slice of the pie, you may have a few questions about how you can monetise your content and work with more brands. Well, good news. 

The KacheeTee Circle Blogger Brunch Lagos: Recap, Moments & Photos

By now, you must likely know what The KacheeTee Circle is about. Even if you haven’t been on Instagram where I run the risk of over talking about it, surely you read this post where I talked about and shared photos from our very first event.

So, two weeks after that event I was scheduled to be in Lagos. I had previously toyed with the idea of inviting a few bloggers who have been part of my blogging journey for an intimate lunch to rub minds. But seeing the response the London brunch received especially from folks in Lagos who requested a Lagos version, I wondered if I could actually pull it off. My calendar for the only available weekend was pretty booked. The Friday was my 30th and the Saturday I was a bridesmaid for my friend’s wedding. If it was going to hold, it had to be on Sunday.

As I tend to do, I sampled the idea via IG stories and the interest was incredible.

I Did It: Skydiving Over the Namib Desert

In 2010, I saw video footage and photos from a Nigerian friend, Ewemade, jumping off a plane somewhere in the UK. Until then, this activity was not relatable to me. I had always seen skydiving as “such a white thing to do” until she shared her experience with me.

I remember that day like yesterday. “I’m going to jump off a plane today,” she said. “That’s so cool,” I responded, “but isn’t that for white people?” Her comeback was photos and an amazing video of her beautifully gliding in the air. It looked magical and I knew I had to experience it. She bumped skydiving up to the number one activity on my adventure list! 

 Eight years later, I got the opportunity to experience this magic in Namibia.