I read a tweet once that basically said "your 20s is for chilling and 30s is for building".
You have got to be joking - I haven’t laughed harder in a very long time.
That tweet is so wrong. To build you need a foundation. Your 20s is for laying a solid foundation – in this case foundation with regards to investment. In your 30s and above you can consolidate on the foundation laid.
But, if you're already in your 30s and you feel this article isn’t for you - again you're wrong. As the saying goes "the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second-best time is now".
I started my 1st job 10 years ago, when I turned 21. And I had no savings culture or investment plan. This lingered for the 1st 5 years of my career. I went from zero salary to over one hundred thousand per month and my expenses surprisingly grew at the same pace
Breakfast is generally seen as the most important meal of the day, yet since I started working full time over 3 years ago; my mornings have shrunk more and more leaving very little time for breakfast. At first I thought "no big deal, I’ll just eat in the office". Until I realised that days went by without leaving my desk. I would have breakfast and lunch at my desk and sometimes those would be my only meals of the day.
Not only is that quite sad, it was putting a noticeable dent in my pocket. The average breakfast was costing £4 on average which amounts to roughly £80 a month and ...wait for it....£960 a year! *wails loudly*
With that in mind, I had to look for quick meals I could grab before leaving the house or (begrudgingly) make at the office.
I'm not sure there are very many first time pregnant women who aren't concerned and inquisitive about labour. Actually, strike that. I'm not sure there are very many ladies or women (and even men!) who want kids who aren't concerned about pregnancy and the process of childbearing.
From the point I got pregnant half of my conversations with mothers and other pregnant persons revolved around pregnancy.
Little wonder that at my surprise baby shower, 90% of the conversation turned to labour and birth stories. And oh did we hear all sorts. From those who swore not to shed a tear at all, to those who feigned being in labour to get their husbands attention. Those who planned to look very glamorous in the delivery room and those who begged for a 5inch pain relief needle to be stuck into their spine.
I was midway through one of my university internships when I met him - who I fondly called E. I remember getting home that day and telling my cousin I had found my husband. He had just been employed at the firm and though I knew almost nothing about him at the time. I just felt he was the one.
Days later, I found out he was from Edo state, and I was all shades of sad because I knew my parents would definitely have issues with him. So I went from seeing him as ‘the one’ to seeing him as my senior colleague. He being a naturally jovial person made me start having a crush on him. I didn’t pay much attention to it because of our ethnic differences and also because I knew my internship was coming to an end.
Twitter is my go-to social media as it often allows for meaningful dialogue. But, one must thread (pun intended) with caution as there are too many bots and trolls. Recently, I came across a rather interesting thread. It has now been retweeted over 3,000 times and favourited almost 6,000 times. Its focus was a topic I had intended to write about before, so it gave me the much needed push and perspectives.
Many concluded that the writer was advocating a case of co-parenting over being marriage. She noted that unlike her co-parenting friends, planning a personal holiday alone is an uphill task as she wouldn't leave her child with her husband. A single co-parent had the liberty of leaving the kids for a specified time and knowing that he'd be fine with them and she wouldn't need to pick up his slacks. I conducted a poll via Instagram and almost 70% of mums couldn't go on holiday leaving the kids with their husbands. Even mums who thought they could, had to caveat this opinion. One mum said "they'd be fine although my daughter may wear her PJs to school”.
One very frequent challenge that many bloggers face is lack of consistency. And amidst other reasons, a lack of ideas or what to write about often leads to a lack of consistency.
I'll have to say that running out of blog post content is not a challenge I often encounter. The thought may have only crossed my mind when I newly started blogging and I was afraid that I'll run out of things to write.
On the contrary, I typically wonder if I'll be able and diligent enough to address and write about all of the topics in my head. I sometimes wish technology has got to the point where my thoughts and ideas can simply be extracted into a blog post without me having to put pen to paper or to raise my fingers in typing.
I'd previously featured Dee on here as she, amongst other female travel enthusiasts share their experiences as travel lovers.
If we could depict in a pie chart what gets Dee excited and what she lives for, I'm willing to bet that while travel may take up a significant portion, her career could take up almost half! Her friends are often surprised at the amount of dedication and love she has for day job! But if you don't look too closely, you'd miss this other side of her - which is easily hidden amongst her goofy, playful side and love for 'ratchet TV'.
And it isn't one to be missed. Such passion, optimism, hard work and motivation like I told her, must be shared. And so I'm glad she's agreed to share all the details of her work life with us!
Dee is an Audit Senior Manager in one of the Big 4 Accounting companies having risen through the ranks in 8 years from an Audit Associate. But this job didn't exactly land at her feet.
With the new year comes all sort of posts and advice about maximising the year. And it's understandable. A new year holds so much potential and promise. But then again, it would be no different if we have no firm plans and work actively to actualise them.
Personally as I said in my first post of 2018, I hadn't exactly caught the buzz of the new year yet. I was still sort of drifting - not quite firmly sure what I wanted out of the year. And the reason for me was simple. I had not put pen to paper to strategically map out my goals and how to achieve them.
So despite the flood of posts on maximising the new year, and the very cliche title of this post, it's a post that could possibly make this new year your best year yet.
It's already over one week into 2018, but I'm still going to say "Happy New Year"!
I hope you had a great holiday and kicking off the new year with joy! I love the smell of possibility, enthusiasm and excitement a new year brings and totally hoping this year 2018 is our best one yet, and all our hopes and dreams come to pass!
So how was 2017? Out of 52 weeks in the year, I was pregnant for 40! So only 12 weeks of not being pregnant. Obviously having our little boy was the best part of the year and we're so thankful for that.
In 2017, we moved into our first home and I qualified as a Solicitor in the UK. Those were definitely the highlights of the year. More leisure related, was the travel experience to 2 new countries - South Africa (which I loved!) and the USA. And well, a tiny goal - but it was listed in my 2017 goals, so it's worth saying that I visited the dentist!
What didn't happen in 2017?