A (Humorous) Guide to the Perfect Instagrammable Vacation Photos

A (Humorous) Guide to the Perfect Instagrammable Vacation Photos

I considered whether it was worth writing this post at this time of the year, when technically in the UK, summer is over and peak travel season is gradually reaching its end. But then my Instagram feed seems to be telling me otherwise, as travel photos are continuously popping up and people seem to be constantly jetting away for short breaks and late summer holidays. I know for a fact that of these 9 Female Travel Enthusiasts we previously featured, at least 4 are on holiday at the moment, and of course Chiamaka - Nigeria's Social Prefect is currently planning a tour to Benin Republic! But whether or not you have any travel plans in the imminent future, this post should help a ton. 

For the people around me, travelling seems to be one of the new cool things to do, and even I have definitely been bitten by the bug - experiencing a few hilarious travel mishaps along the way. On holidays and vacations, there's often a desire to take photos, and record the lovely (perfect?) times. Also thanks to the social media world we live in, there's a high sense of "if you didn't take a photo, did it actually happen?". 

But much more than just taking boring old travel pictures as in times past, many people seek to get the perfect travel shots capturing a mix of excitement, nature & adventure. They often make your Instagram feed look gorgeous, get a ton of likes and are handy ones for a "Throw Back Thursday #TBT" or "Flash Back Friday #FBF".

However if you're anything like me, there's the dilemma of 'what sort of photos do I take exactly?'

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Weekend Notes x Links Around the Web #12

Weekend Notes x Links Around the Web #12

Hey Hey!

Another weekend is upon us. It's been a pretty long week for me. One that I' thought I'll be super productive, but it just didn't work out that way. My schedule got a bit twisted and you probably noticed that from the erratic timing of blog posts. I'm hoping to have a chilled weekend and be back at it next week.

That said, I have to give it up to people who have full day jobs and side money making projects, and deliver on both all the time. Although I do my blog on the side, it's still a hobby of some sort and probably the reason why I can be super chilled with it. But for people who run their own thing (whether full time or not), selling a product or a service, being accountable to themselves and meeting goals constantly, well done! 

What's new with me since the last Weekend Notes couple of weeks go? Not a lot. Routine stuff basically. But I met up with Tuke Morgan briefly last week. Love when I'm able to meet people in real life after connecting on the blog or social media. She also won an award recently for her contribution to music in Nigeria via the Saxophone - which she picked up just 8 years ago. I remember my interview with her last year made me feel like I could pick up a new skill and smash it.  You should totally read it if you missed it.

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Nigerian Inter-Ethnic Love Stories || Yewande & George Thorpe

Nigerian Inter-Ethnic Love Stories || Yewande & George Thorpe

Yewande and George celebrated their 3 year wedding anniversary just a few days ago, and it's the perfect time to share their experiences as an inter-ethnic Nigerian couple. Weirdly enough, she was one of the first people I reached out to in relation to this column.

I ran into her on-line in a very funny way. If you recall from the hilarious and untold bits bits of my wedding, the driver of the car I was to ride in to church couldn't be found, and so my sisters and I ended up in the photographer's car singing and dancing on the way to the church. It was hilarious (video snippet here), and when the photographer posted it up, Yewande commented saying cheekily "Driver & photographer for the price of one!" I later realised that for her wedding which was a few months after mine, she had planned to use the same photographer!

Yewande is Yoruba from Ogun State and her husband, George is Efik from Cross River state, although he's from an inter-ethnic household as his mum is from Delta state.  I'm so excited to share her love story and experience. From the one thing she's strike out from her husband's culture, to how she's pretty much an expert at Efik dishes! 

Fun Fact: She and her husband were born on the same day and are birthday mates. How cool! 

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My Cambridge University Story (Part II) - Living & Studying in Cambridge

My Cambridge University Story (Part II) - Living & Studying in Cambridge

I almost always need some form of push to write a blog post. Although I knew I was going to share my experience in Cambridge  particularly after sharing part 1 of how I got the full LL.M Commonwealth scholarship, for some reason I still wasn’t too inspired to write about Cambridge. Until a couple of  weekends ago. We were visiting friends, and in the middle of the conversation one of our friends pointed to anothers' teenage daughter and said, "she’s like you oh, she had 9 A* in her GSCEs".

First off, I countered the fact that that was like me - that was so much better than me. 9 A* is incredible. So naturally, the conversation progressed to what university she’d love to attend and she said “Cambridge!” to study medicine. Ah, that totally pulled me out of my shell, as we got talking about life in Cambridge, the colleges, and my experience in general.  I loved reminiscing about it, and I’ll try to share in this post as much as I can!

To continue from Part 1, right after the scholarship came through, and before the visa application, I had to sort out medicals and accommodation. Medicals were pretty straight forward - weight, height and some urine tests. It was however the first time I realised that I had put on so much weight - when I saw 63kg on the report, I was almost fainted. Anyway I digress, but you can read all about my bingo wings and the easiest hack ever to get rid of them.

Ok, let's get into the real crux of this post, as I share some highlights of life and living in Cambridge. 

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Comfort Zones & Familiarity in Relationships: How Far is Too Far?

Comfort Zones & Familiarity in Relationships: How Far is Too Far?

I love being married. And if I'm being honest, one of the reasons I love my marriage is the fact that many times I don't have to put up appearances. Although now that I think about it - I was never one to put up appearances even while dating. On our first date, Tee accused me of eating chicken with my hands - but hey I saw no need for putting up airs. Or so I thought. Anyway, I've been thinking about familiarity and comfort zones in relation to relationships. How far is too far really? Where do we draw the line between being absolutely comfortable and being overly comfortable that it takes out the mystery, attraction and allure between both of you.

I thought I'll consider some of the more popular areas - especially from the female perspective.

1. Hair & Makeup

The first time I met Tee, I had the most horrible looking braids; and from then till now, I've had such bad hair days that should ordinarily make him cringe. But he's often such a good sport about it, and in some weird sort of way prefers my real hair as opposed to any weaves. But then, I think he reached his limit with wigs!  For many black /afro-Caribbean women today, wigs are the in thing - with our real hair plaited underneath in cornrows. But it gets tricky in so many ways, and for many it's a love-hate relationship.

Recently I was having a chat with someone about this, and she said 'at least you're married…it's so difficult for we that are still dating'.

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A Day in the Work Life of: Tega Ogbuigwe - University Lecturer (& PhD student)

A Day in the Work Life of: Tega Ogbuigwe - University Lecturer (& PhD student)

I personally looked forward to this post so much, because in the past few years I've come to greatly appreciate and respect university lecturers as a result of being married to one. I think it's amazing how on the outside it seems like they could have it easy, but then it's such hard work round the clock! One that obviously takes a whole lot of dedication and if I'm being honest, one that I'm not sure I could ever do.

But Tega is absolutely in love with her career; and you can see this from her responses. I'll have to admit that I stumbled on her via Instagram thanks to her perfectly sculpted body, but even underneath fitness photos she's almost always sure to hashtag #lecturer and that's how I found out what she does by day .

From previously lecturing in Nigeria, Tega now lectures at the Victoria University of Wellington, New Zealand. How she ended up there is an interesting story in itself - one that is sure to inspire you and make you take chances!

She's married to her Husbae as she calls him and they have two adorable boys. In describing herself she says "I can’t sing to save my kids but you will hear me singing all the time. I can run 10miles without stopping. I’ll rather lie on the couch staring at the ceiling in silence than watch TV. I have an “angry look” by default so I am learning to smile a lot. I’m obsessed with workout leggings. My favourite junk is any drink with caramel in it!" 

She shares her work life with us. Enjoy! 

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Weekend Notes x Links from Around The Web #11

Weekend Notes x Links from Around The Web #11

Hey people!

First off, it's September, and I hope you have an amazing one! 

I'm pretty sure we'd blink and we'd all be talking of Christmas. It's the last quarter of the year and the home stretch! Any special goals or plans? 

You've probably noticed I changed the title of the post, as explained in the last one. Works better this way as I'm currently typing this on Friday evening whilst having my second cup of tea of the day, I seem to be drinking a lot of tea lately. Have the English people finally won me over?

That said, it's been an exhausting past week despite the fact that we had a bank holiday on Monday over here. We had such a fun barbecue and even though it was the only one we had all summer, I'm glad we snuck it in, as memories are everything. And as hoped, I saw Saro the Musical, and met up with Dee who I featured on this 9 female travellers post - we had such a great time! The only other note-worthy thing that happened last week is the fact that I finally started watching the series Power and also booked a dental appointment. I'm really looking forward to it, and getting feedback on my teeth. That was one of my 2017 goals. 

This weekend, I'm just looking forward to lots of sleep and relaxation and maybe creating some bit of content for the blog. It should be an interesting one for those in Nigeria and the US, as they've got work free days for Eid and Labor day.

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9 People 1 Question: Kinky Hair Experts on Growing and Caring for Nappy Hair

9 People 1 Question: Kinky Hair Experts on Growing and Caring for Nappy Hair

If there's one thing that I absolutely wished to conquer this year, it was understanding and loving my natural hair (i.e my hair in the way it grows out of my scalp and without any chemicals or relaxers); and generally being more adventurous with my hair. I had transitioned for most of 2016; gradually cutting off the relaxed ends until it was fully natural. But I hadn't made an attempt to wear it out often or learn to style it, and it was mostly in protective styles. But seeing so many 4c hair enthusiasts proudly wear and style their hair made me itch to sort mine out. I love how all over the world, many more people are embracing this.  

But in the first few weeks of 2017, I broke my new hair resolution and went back to the arguably easier way of applying relaxers. But yet again, since January I haven't had any chemicals and so I'm eager to try again. What better way than to reach out to nine kinky hair experts for all the inspiration and tips? 

So whether you're already a natural hair expert; in the process of mastering your own hair, considering switching up; tempted to go back to relaxers or simply love a good story - you'd enjoy this piece. 

Some also shared really hilarious hair anecdotes and encounters and the one reason (or amount of money) they'd consider going back to relaxers! I gotta say we've got ourselves some pretty deep naturalistas. 

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Everything You Need to Know about Office / Work Place Etiquette (+tips to win brownie points at work)

Everything You Need to Know about Office / Work Place Etiquette (+tips to win brownie points at work)

Every other week at work, we receive a newsletter highlighting important information and a mini interview with a member of the team. One of the responses I look forward to the most is "what's your office pet peeve". The answers often range from bad coffee, smelly feet to untidy desks. 

Being the foodie that I am, mine was food related. It did use to get on my nerves when there were no clean forks by 1 pm! It may have been because we didn't have enough forks in the kitchenettes or also because people couldn't be bothered to wash off their cutlery or put same in the dishwasher. I suspect it was a bit of both, as a few days after my mini interview,  the kitchen was blessed with a dozen new forks, and so went my pet peeve. 

I also recently tweeted that I couldn't understand how grown females often messed up the toilets in their offices, and a number of ladies responded that they faced the same thing at work as well. 

All of these, made me think of all the many things we do at work that get on people's nerves and quite simply show a lack of etiquette. I knew then that I had to write this post and get it out to as many people as possible. 

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Nigerian Inter-Ethnic Love Stories || Lara & Teshola Idowu

Nigerian Inter-Ethnic Love Stories || Lara & Teshola Idowu

Lara is such an amazing and kind-hearted person! We had the chance to meet up during my birthday getaway in Dubai. She was so gracious, invited me into her lovely home, fed me with the tastiest pepper soup and showed me round her beauty studio. As a fashion and beauty entrepreneur, she sews, teaches, consults and offers makeup services.  When she realised I ran this column on the blog, she was very willing to share her experiences and all I had to do was ask.

She's Yoruba, from Ekiti state in Nigeria (though her mum is from Ondo State) and been married for four years to Teshola (although you'd be forgiven if you thought that was their surname as she often goes by the name LaraTesh). On the face of it, their first Names and surname sure make it look like they're both Yoruba. But Tesh, a financial analyst is Itsekiri from Delta State, though his mum is from Benin. Don't you just love these culture fusion?

In her words "the nature of my job, has exposed me to working with people from different ethnicity and culture from all over the world. This has made me conclude that we are not different one another. What we see as different is what is adding color to this world and making us stronger". I couldn't agree more.

In this awesome interview, she spills on their inter ethnic union, how she has Igbo roots, opposition received, her dramatic proposal and the one food from Tesh's culture that she can't fathom eating! Of course, we have her gorgeous and gleeful photos to swoon over! Enjoy.

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