Pregnancy Diaries: Surprise Baby Shower Moments & Photos

Pregnancy Diaries: Surprise Baby Shower Moments & Photos

Photo sessions and baby showers are two fun things I know many women look forward to in pregnancy.

But while I definitely wanted a photoshoot, I wasn't too keen on a baby shower. I considered it, but brushed it aside when I thought of actually having to plan one. A lot of my friends do not live in the UK, and those who do, do not live in my city. Although they probably wouldn't have minded, I didn't want to have to impose people coming over for the baby shower and then also coming over when he was born.  

Since I wasn't planning to organise my own shower, I didn't see a surprise one happening. In random conversations, Tee didn't seem like he was a huge fan - I didn't think he'd have anything up his sleeves.

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Nigerian Inter Ethnic Love Stories || Mercy & Chris Okere

Nigerian Inter Ethnic Love Stories || Mercy & Chris Okere

The first time I saw the name 'Mercy Haruna - Okere', I knew that I'd love to interview her and hear her inter ethnic story especially because I had assumed that the name Haruna was somewhat affiliated to the Northern part of Nigeria. So after many months of looking forward to this feature (and actually meeting her in person!), I'm glad I can finally share her and Chris' lovely story and oh-so-beautiful photos of their family. 

Mercy is Igala from Kogi State and Christian is Ndoki/Igbo from Rivers and Abia State. They've been married for four years now and currently live in Kent with their beautiful 3-year-old son and 1-year-old daughter.

According to Mercy "Chris was fascinated by the fact that I was born in his home city, Port Harcourt (PH) and I think I fell in love with his bald head… #TeamBaldie". They both grew up around ethnic and racial diversity, and have succeeded in having a beautiful union despite inter-cultural differences. They share their experiences with us - about the beauty and challenges of inter-ethnic unions - one of which is Mercy's inability to understand some Chris' favourite foods...

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9 People 1 Question - Vegans on Going Meat Free, Challenges and Advice

9 People 1 Question - Vegans on Going Meat Free, Challenges and Advice

The first time I had a real conversation with a vegan was roughly four and a half years ago at a dinner in Oxford, and during my master's degree in Cambridge. Before then, I can't exactly boast that I was very aware of the trend or concept. I had lived in Nigeria for all of my life and frankly everyone ate meat. Not eating meat was almost like a taboo. It was very rare.

So that night at the dinner table, side by side with someone who had been vegan for such a long time, I was perplexed. How and why did he just decide to stop eating meat? He explained that after being exposed to how animals were treated for food, he couldn't justify eating them. I'll be honest and say that he didn't look like the most healthy person, so I wondered if he had made the right decision.

Nonetheless, he had piqued my curiousity and soon after, I watched a documentary on treatment of animals. It had an effect on me and I probably tried to go meat free for a week - but that was it! Today, being vegetarian or vegan is much more common and very much preached about. I don't know if I'll ever be able to go vegan, but I wonder about it - especially these days as meat tends to get stuck in my teeth way too often!  

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One Month of Motherhood & Life with a New Born

One Month of Motherhood & Life with a New Born

My friend who's also a new mum recently shared on Facebook that amongst other motherhood lessons, she has now learned to differentiate between the sounds of baby's fart & baby's poo. I'm not quite there yet in that regard. Sometimes I hear a really loud sound of what I assume to be poo, only to check the diaper and see nothing or just pee!

Anyway, it's one month already of being a mum and parenting. Sometimes it feels like time is flying and I only just gave birth to him yesterday. Other times I feel like I've been doing this forever.

First, I owe you guys a huge thank you for all your wishes when I announced that we'd had a baby! I could genuinely feel the joy and excitement from this community and I appreciated it a million times over. And just maybe I owe you an apology as well for keeping it away. It clearly came as a surprise and some people even said they felt betrayed. Lol! Others said they suspected and were almost certain. I really wanted to share with you at some point, and it was a hard one to keep but I'm sure you understand. But I'm excited to share the events in retrospect and all the details going forward. 

Needless to say it's been interesting for being a mum and I thought to do a one month update sharing my experience - particularly relating to some of the most frequent questions we got asked, advice we've received and life with a new born generally.

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How It Feels to Be a Twin - Edem & Efi Andah

How It Feels to Be a Twin - Edem & Efi Andah

One fascinating thing about Edem & Efi is that they're named after both of their parents - that is very cool!  

As noted in the past features, being a twin makes you selfless and imbibe a spirit of sharing. However I'm not quite sure these ladies loved the fact that they had to share a cell phone while their younger sister got one to herself!

Edem & Efi both doctors in the UK happily share all of their experiences with us. From ditching the concept of wearing the same clothes, being compared, telepathy & the truth about twins as best friends.

In addition, they've shared two of their terribly cute baby photos! And while it does seem that they looked much more alike when they were younger, you will see it's still not that easy to tell them apart. Or is it?

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Pregnancy Diaries: 1st - 3rd Trimester!

Pregnancy Diaries: 1st - 3rd Trimester!

Tee suspected first that I was pregnant. That's because my body pretty much works like a clock, and well he knows the settings. So when it seemed slightly off, he raised it. 

But I knew that I was 99% pregnant the day I craved sushi! I mean, sushi. I'd probably only eaten it twice in my life and I wasn't a huge fan. But not only did I crave it, I stopped at the restaurant on the way home from work, ordered sushi, sat alone and ate it.

Throughout all of the pregnancy this was probably the only craving I had, and just that one time. 

Anyway, we finally decided to do a test after my sushi craving. I took the test right there in Tee's presence (made me think about over-familiarity in relationships, but for me it wasn't a big deal) so I didn't have to tell him in any fancy way.

Well well, the plus (+) sign came on and it read 5+ weeks pregnant. That was the most specific the test could tell, and we'd require a blood test for any further details.

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Life Quotes & Lessons from Trevor Noah's "Born a Crime"

Life Quotes & Lessons from Trevor Noah's "Born a Crime"

I bought Trevor Noah's Born a Crime to read during labour and while in the hospital to have my baby. Everyone said it was an easy and funny read, and I figured it'll be a good one to delve into in the midst of contractions. I ended up reading it way too quickly before any contractions. But then, I started typing up this post when the first set of contractions hit... 

I haven't read that many books in recent times, but this one is right up there for me. It's funny, yet deep. I hardly underline or highlight books when reading; but if I did, I'll have come close to underlining a whole lot of it.  

I didn't know that much of Trevor Noah (and still don't!). So it's not because I'm a personal fan that I found this book fascinating.  Apparently he's a comedian - so yes, it is funny. But it's so much more - filled with quotable quotes and life gems. Pegged as a love letter to his mum, it addresses a whole bunch of matters: racism; equality; domestic violence; poverty & crime; marriage and relationships; friendships.

The writing brings each character to life and you can almost clearly visualise each one. I'm not about to review the book though because I'm not sure exactly how to. What I will do, is point out some lines that I couldn't help nodding constantly to. And thinking "true words there Trevor; true words..."

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38 Weeks, a Pregnancy Tag + Bump Photo Shoot!

38 Weeks, a Pregnancy Tag + Bump Photo Shoot!

Pregnancy is an interesting yet totally in-explainable journey - even after one has gone through it. At the time of writing this, I'm officially 38 weeks, and full term. According to all of the pregnancy apps I follow, all of the baby's organs are fully mature and set for life outside the womb! Not much is set to happen in the next couple of weeks.

It's been such an amazing journey, one that I'll hopefully try to share in detail / from the day we found out to when baby arrives. At the moment, it's a waiting game and I might have to go to the hospital any time now - to come home with a third person that we would be responsible for forever. Huge shoes if you ask me. Exciting yet filed with so many questions ahead.

I've seen these pregnancy tag questions around, and they seem like a fun way to discuss the preliminaries in a light hearted Q & A way. So I decided to go for it...

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For the Laid-Back Traveller / Non-Adrenaline Junkie: 6(+1) Activities You Can Truly Enjoy in Dubai 

For the Laid-Back Traveller / Non-Adrenaline Junkie: 6(+1) Activities You Can Truly Enjoy in Dubai 

My mum has to be the least travel enthusiastic person I know. Especially when it comes to air travel. I don't particularly think it's a phobia, it's just a case of zero interest. She’d over-rationalise in her head whether she really has to go. She's definitely one of those people who would not understand how these 9 female travel enthusiasts just pack up their bags and (solo) travel! And when she does eventually have to make a trip, the number of people at the airport constantly surprises her, and you'd be sure to hear the question "where are they all going?

You're probably thinking she's really old. No - she's just in her 50s. Like isn't that prime time to travel the world? And please do not mention the words stop-over to her. As long as there's a straight flight, that’s her preferred option. Recently when she was coming over to visit, I suggested a stop over at Dubai. Understandably that's double the flight time, but it would have given her an opportunity to explore Dubai. But you guessed right, she wouldn't hear of it.

LOS (Lagos) ---> LHR (London Heathrow) it had to be.

So yes, my mum has surprisingly not been to Dubai. I say surprisingly not because it's a must see destination, but because for Nigerians in Nigeria, it's usually one of the first places they choose to explore. Or have a destination wedding. Or a honeymoon.

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How It Feels to Be A Twin - Kehinde & Taiwo Omotosho

How It Feels to Be A Twin - Kehinde & Taiwo Omotosho

When I reached out to Kehinde, and explained that I was fascinated with twins and would love to feature them on here, she jokingly responded "No worries, we are fascinated with you mortals too". Oh dear. I guess we mere mortals just have no idea how twins are slightly above mortals eh?

The names Kehinde & Taiwo are common names for twins from the Western part of Nigeria. There's an interesting explanation regarding who is older, and who comes out of the womb first. I often think I know this clearly in my mind, and then when I try to explain it to someone else I get confused.

These lovely ladies are in their late twenties, and they have two 'mere mortal' younger brothers. Kenny has a degree in English but is currently studying nursing in Indianapolis, having previously worked in the media industry for two years as a TV producer and newscaster. She is an irrevocable sanguine and loves to write funny poems, read, dance & cook!

Taiwo is also a nursing student who enjoys dancing and acting. She says she can wake up from any kind of deep slumber just to have her mum's akara (Nigerian meal made of fried ground bean paste).

They share their experiences with us! But first - according to them, an unspoken rule about twins is that "you never ever intervene in our fights, arguments or quarrels. In a twinkle of an eye, we will settle, and pounce on you".

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