Nigerian Inter-ethnic Love Stories: Vivian, Olive, Lamide & Sogie Share their Experience on Growing up Mixed

Nigerian Inter-ethnic Love Stories: Vivian, Olive, Lamide & Sogie Share their Experience on Growing up Mixed

Finally, here's the concluding part of this blog post where I asked some 'cool kids' to share their  experiences growing up in a mixed home and their thoughts on inter-ethnic marriages.

As I've probably said before, it's one thing for 2 individuals to get fall in love based on their own interests. But what if it's not the best circumstance  and environment for the kids?

It's a bit of a stretch but sort of like two AS genotype couples ignoring the fact that they could potentially have SS kids and that wouldn't be best for the kids. Thankfully, judging from the responses of these four (and the earlier four)... i think inter ethnic homes are thankfully safe, and sound like so much fun.

I must admit some of the stories clearly got me laughing & wondering what it'd have been like if I grew up in a mixed home. I guess our kids will be lucky and hopefully have such fun stories to share!

I spoke to Viv whose dad would almost twist his tongue trying to speak her mum's language; and to Olive who considered getting married to a Hausa man just to complete the circle. Lamide shares the one food he thinks we shouldn't eat & Sogie says she often uses a common opinion held about Bini people to her advantage!

Enjoy. 

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6 Tricky Job Interview Questions and How to Answer Them!

6 Tricky Job Interview Questions and How to Answer Them!

When I wrote about the STAR technique for acing competency questions, I asked if this was a post people would like to see, and many said yes. So here we are!

I remember my very first job interview. First of, the invite had said, "We'd like to invite you for a chat...". So I turned up wearing a pair of jeans and a shirt. Wrong move.

Then I got asked the question "Tell me about yourself". Still with the mindset of this being a chat, I shared some generic information about myself, my family background and the fact that I was 2nd out of 5 kids, my general education history and why I wanted to be a lawyer. It was an okay answer - one that would have sufficed if I was trying to know a friend or perhaps on a 10 minute speed date.   It evoked a few laughs from the interviewers, but it definitely wasn't a stellar response. 

I'll compare this to the latest interview I had, where I was asked the same question. And my response dealt more on my educational background, my previous experience, my strengths and future professional aspirations as well as why I thought I'd be a perfect fit for the role. I ended with saying something along the lines of "That's pretty much me, but I could share a few more personal details if you'd like to know". They laughed heartily and said there wasn't any need.

While I think that no good interviewer aims to trick you, some questions are by their very nature slightly tricky. 

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7 Hilarious Questions Couples Think of at Their Wedding!

7 Hilarious Questions Couples Think of at Their Wedding!

One of my best friends got married this past weekend, and it was so sad that I couldn't make it. Life really just happens you know. Four of us met in University about 12 years ago, and lived together for 2 years during our penultimate & final years of our LL.B degree.

We'd shop together, sometimes wear each other's clothes and often shoes. 3 out of 4 of us could roughy squeeze into a size 6 (UK) pair of shoes - although just one person (me) was an actual 6. The other taller than me was a 7 and the other shorter than me was a 5.5. But as young broke students, we made it work. The last person? no luck... she was a UK size 9 and often had shoe issues. Even at my wedding, her shoes were a struggle to find and didn't quite fit. (All my girls wore the same shoes which I loved! - Photo here). 

We're planning a girl's trip soon and we hope it works because the last time we were together was at my wedding. We naturally thought it'll happen that way for all the other three weddings. But when the size 9 friend got married 2 years ago, life had happened and only one of us could make it. Me the size 6, was already married, adjusting to my new UK lifestyle and couldn't make it for the wedding. The size 7 was somewhere in the land of the free trying to bag a masters degree and see if there was really anything such as the American dream.

Anyway, it was the shortest of us all - the size 5.5 that got married this past weekend. 

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Fashion Around The World - Toluwalade Toyin-Kehinde (Philippines)

Fashion Around The World  - Toluwalade Toyin-Kehinde (Philippines)

You'll agree there hasn't been much fashion on the blog. Well that's about to change, thanks to some fashionistas all over the world we'd be hanging with as they share their style & tips with us. I know I'm always amazed at people who genuinely love fashion, literally dream about it & have their own sense of style. It's personally not my forte. 

When I was in Dubai, I actually took bit of time to observe the street style around me, and it was intriguing (and I loved the Abaya I wore! (photo here) Although I'd had this idea in mind before then, I think it was at that point I decided to pursue it.

So rather than just exploring fashion in a vacuum, through fashionistas and stylish people either originating from or living in different parts of the world, we get to have a glimpse into these places and ofcourse, learn a thing or two!

Today, we've got Lade who's Nigerian but is currently in medical school in the Philippines, all the way in South East Asia!

She loves fashion and also models on the side. She has such a warm personality and even though we met online, we've become friends and it feels like I've known her for such a long time. Maybe because I've actually spoken to her on the phone a couple of times. 

Fun fact? She won the pageant for the most beautiful girl in Southwestern University, Philippines in 2015!

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Be a Little Selfish: 11 Ways to Exercise and Practice Self-Love

Be a Little Selfish: 11 Ways to Exercise and Practice Self-Love

Last year's Valentine I wanted to get myself a bunch of fresh flowers, and I was certain I was going to as I had just begun to appreciate flowers. (And had only received flowers ever on the day of our wedding & when I failed my driving test). But I just really wanted to do something for myself that day. Not because I didn't think I'd get val'ed so to speak. But because I felt like showing myself love in a tangible way.

I have no objections at all to celebrating Valentine as a lover's day. As a matter of fact, I think it's kind of cute - as it was to see so many people (particularly older men) at the store at about 6pm (obviously last minute decision makers like me) struggle to find the perfect greeting card which captures their feelings.

No doubt it's great to be in a loving relationship around this time to be loved & to love. But you know what I've come to really appreciate as I grow older, self love. Because it's so so true what they say - you can't pour from an empty cup. And you can't give what you don't have. I've come to realise that on days I'm cranky, unhappy, deflated - it's genuinely hard to love. And it's probably also harder to be loved.

So with each passing day, I'm a little bit more conscious of self love. But hold up. This doesn't mean pride or narcissism or selfishness.

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9 People, 1 Question || Male Chefs on What to Cook for Your Valentine!

9 People, 1 Question || Male Chefs on What to Cook for Your Valentine!

There's so many reasons why I love this post!

First, if your twitter timeline is anything like mine, then you'd know there's often (surprisingly) intense conversations about cooking. It comes in different forms, but many times relates to women being the ones to cook. It could be whether a girlfriend should be cooking for her man before she has a ring or whether a girl who is great in the kitchen is likely to find love faster. Oh, the married ladies are often not exempt. Should married women cook for their men all the time? Or sometimes they debate the question of men who demand fresh food for every meal - i.e straight from the cooker to his plate - no freezing, no microwaves.

I think these conversations are often unnecessary and there are no clear cut answers. But I guess they arise because of two things most people get weak knees for; Love & Food! What better time to explore this than valentine - the generally accepted day of love.

I'm not hugely into valentine, I'll never say no to some greeting cards with mushy wordings and good food, preferably home made with love. I intended to outright ask Tee to make some romantic dinner either on the 14th or later that weekend. But just in case he'd need some inspiration, I decided to ask the experts!

And you guessed right - I chose to ask the men. Because you know what's super cool? A man who knows how to cook!

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On One Year of Blogging (and Giveaways!)

On One Year of Blogging (and Giveaways!)

Eeeeek (No idea why this is my favourite expression at the moment), but the blog turned one on the 10th of February! To celebrate one whole year of blogging, I ate one mini cupcake! I remember when we turned one month and I wrote about it. 

Then one year seemed so far. But now it's here. It's true what they say. Time is often never a barrier to starting.

I'm thankful for that day when I shared my first post on Facebook. Thankful that I've managed to build a community. I was honestly overwhelmed by the wishes and it felt like it was my birthday. Thank you everyone for supporting this blog.  For sharing your opinions and your views. For reading. For constructive criticism & encouragement.

It seems like my page views often align with celebration of some sort. When the blog was 9 months, we hit 100k views. And now at one year, it literally just got to 150k views a few hours before the 10th. 

I think I've shared most of my blogging updates in my 2016 recap post - which you should absolutely read if you missed it.

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Go Green! 7 Helpful Ways to Eat More Greens & Veggies

Go Green!  7 Helpful Ways to Eat More Greens & Veggies

More recently, we've been buying a whole lot more carrots than usual - from baby carrots, to "adult" carrots to already sliced ready-to-eat carrots. It's totally become our go to snack at home, and helps with those midnight cravings. 

I've always always loved carrots. As a child, and I'd pick out the green peas in my Nigerian fried rice, but actually look forward to chewing on the carrots. For some reason though, it annoyed me when the skin of the carrots wasn't properly cleaned before it was diced, and so it had a grey layer over it. This was probably as result of my mum - who scrapped every carrot before eating it. Unlike her sister who saw that as a waste of time and simply rinsed the carrot & chewed happily.I must admit more recently, it had become a hassle to peel the carrot. Tee laughs at my back sliding - like my mum's elder sister, he never saw the point in scraping carrots. 

Not sure why I'm going on about carrots, when this post is really about vegetables & greens! Oh I know. It's because Tee now actually eats a lot of carrot & insists we always have them at home. He's also coming around to eating more veggies, thanks to the tips below. 

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Hair Struggles and a Review of Irresistible Me Hair Clip-ins!

Hair Struggles and a Review of Irresistible Me Hair Clip-ins!

If I'm being honest, my hair often gives me a tough time and a bad hair day happens more often than I'll like. I haven't been able to come up with the perfect go-to and easy hair or signature hair style. And that's probably for a couple of reasons:

  1. My head hurts easily. So braids and wigs aren't a fave.
  2. I always want to touch my scalp (and my husband wants to touch it too).
  3. Not a fan of hair nets & scarves - because of number 1.
  4. I don't like spending too much time in the salon.

But this year, I'm determined to put in a bit more effort. So in my January recap post, I mentioned how it's just a few weeks into the year and I've already switched up my hair in three different ways.

Truth is my preference any time any day - would be to have my natural hair out a 100% of the time - whether in its unrelaxed state or relaxed. 

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Birthday Getaway: Dubai & Abu-Dhabi

Birthday Getaway: Dubai & Abu-Dhabi

It's been over two months (birthday was November!) but I'm finally getting around to this. I think it's because I was wishing for a holiday this past weekend, and naturally looked through these photos. 

This wasn't exactly a planned holiday, but when our initial trip to Dubai didn't happen, in April, we considered moving our tickets. Since we had a birthday getaway in November 2015 - to Spain & Portugal, we thought maybe a birthday getaway could become one of our yearly couple traditions so we managed to move the tickets.

We flew from Heathrow, and I was pretty excited because I'd heard lots of good stuff about the Emirates A380, which is a double decker plane. If you've also seen the ad with Jennifer Aniston, you'll agree it's quite something - with the business class section on the top level with an entire bar. Thanks to air miles, we bumped up our tickets to business class - and if nothing else, the ease of the process would make me pay for it if I had the money!

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